My journey over 10 years with my mother who was living with dementia in a care home has been an experiential roller coaster of learning from ‘the other side of the fence’. Having spent over 20 years of my working life in care homes we found ourselves unexpectedly consumers of the care home sector, first with my father who had multi-infarct dementia and then my mother who had a combination of both vascular and the Alzheimer’s type of dementia.